# Partners in successful relationships These are the properties of partners in successful relationships according to Shannon Curry ### Conscientiousness This refers to how much each partner really notices each other. They both make an effort. Paying attention to little details. ### Emotional stability / low neuroticism For me this is primarily [[emotional maturity]]. Low neuroticism to me is about getting the big rocks in the jar before the pebbles and the sand. Understanding what the sand is and not worrying too much about it. ### Moderate amount of adventurousness Or conversely the "feeling of home." Need some amount of adventurousness so that things are exciting and interesting, but not so much that the unit stability feels threatened.